Help A Friend

Whether you know it or not, some of the people in your life may be facing violence at home—a friend, a coworker or even a family member. For many reasons, it’s hard for victims to acknowledge they are being abused—especially when the abuser is supposed to be a loved one.

There are lots of ways you can tell if something is wrong—unexplained injuries or explanations that don’t quite make sense. Canceling plans at the last minute or fear of making their partner angry when they do something on their own.

Supporting a friend who is a victim of domestic violence can be challenging, but your care can make a significant difference. Here are some ways to help:

1. Listen and Believe: Offer a safe space for them to share their feelings. Listen without judgment and affirm their experiences.
2. Educate Yourself: Learn about domestic violence to better understand what your friend is going through and the complexities involved.
3. Respect Their Choices: It’s essential to support their decisions, even if you don’t agree. They may not be ready to leave the situation, and that’s okay.
4. Provide Resources: Help them find local support services, such as hotlines, shelters, or counseling. Offer to accompany them if they need support.
5. Create a Safety Plan: Discuss practical steps they can take in case they need to leave quickly, including packing essentials and having a place to go.
6. Stay in Touch: Regularly check in with your friend, even if they don’t respond. This shows you care and are there for them.
7. Encourage Professional Help: Suggest they talk to a counselor or therapist who specializes in domestic violence.
8. Be Patient: Recovery and decision-making take time. Be there for them, regardless of the pace of their progress.
9. Take Care of Yourself: Supporting someone in this situation can be emotionally taxing. Make sure you’re also looking after your own well-being.

Remember, your friend’s safety is the priority, so approach the situation with sensitivity and understanding.

Remind your friend that domestic violence is a serious crime and that victims can seek protection from the police and courts by calling 911 and seeking a protective order.